Alfred, Lord Tennyson

“The happiness of a man in this life does not consist in the absence, but in the mastery of his passions.”

– Alfred, Lord Tennyson

Alfred, Lord Tennyson was the Poet Laureate of England from 1850 to 1892, which is the year he died. Despite being a poet of the Victorian Era, Tennyson’s work leans greatly towards Romanticism.

Yet again, today’s post does not seek to analyse Tennyson’s poetry, instead it recognises the significance of the above quote.

Imagine life as a hollow circe with a large void within its boundaries. What fills this void, which is not a transient fill? Happiness comes and goes, like the waves of the ocean. It rolls in when it is supposed to, and when the time is right, it leaves. It is not possible to stagnate the waves of the ocean. A stagnated ocean is synonymous with a murky pond lacking any form of dynamism. This segment of collected waters from the ocean has lost their wonderful talent to form waves.

I parallel this with happiness. Life is full of events, both good and bad. Some cause happiness, and some do not. But when a moment passes, all it leaves behind is its memory. If this moment were to be captured, and lived several times over, it would lose its characteristic of causing happiness.

This way, several instances enter the void of life’s circle, and in the due course of time, every one leaves. But happiness is often proclaimed to be a state of mind, is it not? It is the state of mind caused by internalising certain events both mental and physical. These events leave behind a memory of happiness, rather than the happiness itself.

However, this question does not answer how we can maintain a happy sensation permanently in the void. This is the juncture when passion reveals itself as the answer.

Passion for an activity, or passion for living life itself, is causal of happiness. This is the happiness which translates to joy. Events continue to come and go, and continue to cause and withdraw happiness. However raw joy is only attainable with the attainment of passion.

Taking this conclusion further, I would like to state that happiness and passion are in fact, one and the same. Without having a passion to be happy, one cannot be happy. This passion for joy turns to the latter itself. One may have a passion for music, writing, sport, or all else, yet if he does not have a passion to be happy – the will to be happy, he will not be happy. So happiness is a state of mind, but this state of mind is truly, and earnestly brought about, only if passion precedes it.

– MayaSoul


The Power of Forgiveness

Hello everyone!

This post, as is evident from the title dwells on something I have learnt to do, in earnest, very recently. Forgiveness has always been the key to press after any fight, and has always been quite easy.

However, what I never spared a thought towards, was the fact that forgiveness hardly penetrated the surface. It is only recently that I found the will to forgive, and do it earnestly; by really meaning it and loving the one who apologises. Why is this so important? If I have never spared a thought to it all my life, and it has never interfered with my life’s daily working, why delve deeper into forgiveness?

The instant answer that surfaces is the liberating feeling I get after really meaning the words, “It’s okay”, in answer to, “I’m sorry”. If that person has wronged me and I in turn, reply with forgiveness, it seems as though all the hurt they have caused me dissolves into nothingness. In its place, it leaves a void which is filled with joy.

This joy makes me happy. The very fact that I feel happy after a seemingly undesirable incident proves that forgiveness has been earnest.

Yet again, this places before me another question: What is the point of this entire exercise?

Well, I am now able to avoid feeling both hatred and resentment, both of which are monsters capable of corrupting even the purest of hearts. However, not only am I able to avoid hatred, but I am also able to feel less critical of myself. Forgiving a person with my heart enables me to view myself as a better human being, thus eliciting not only self esteem, but also self compassion. I am now able to love myself for a reason: that I have done something right. Is this not necessary for happiness? It is often easy to forgive another, but seemingly impossible to forgive oneself. Well, when you really forgive a person, you cannot help but forgive yourself in the process.

“Forgiveness is the greatest act of charity” – Unknown

This quote not only speaks of the charity one does unto another by forgiving them, but also of the charity he does unto himself, by being able to forgive himself.

See you soon,